to fuck or to be fucked, is not the question as the fucker can also be fucked.
to be fucked or to fuck may be a decision only if you are not already fucked, unless you are going to be fucked or possibly going to fuck, again or at some point in the future. as you are already fucked, it follows that there is limited free will in fucking.
whether you are indeed fucked really does not matter as you were fucked before you even thought about whether you were fucked in the first place.
best to accept that you are fucked, were fucked and will be fucked.
understand that it is a choice if you are to fuck.
do not fuck when the fuckee is less than agreeable to the fucking.
either way, even if you do fuck, you remain fucked.